And the real sad part is that the people involved give in to
their fears and kill their beautiful dream. Any chance of
experiencing a fulfilled happy life, of living the life they
truly want, evaporates.
Just why do people kill their dreams?
I want to share with you a true story to illustrate what's
Recently, I met up with a good friend of mine for a drink. I
hadn't seen her for a while and was looking forward to
meeting up. Nikkie is a very talented dancer who's never
happier than when she's dancing. When I last saw her, she
was buzzing with excitement about 2 stage shows she was
performing in and told me of her plans to finish her IT
degree course then move to London to pursue her dancing
professionally. Eventually, she'd manage her own studio and
What a great dream, yes? Dancing and performing for a
living, then teaching the art to others. Beats the 9-5 rat
race, doesn't it?
Her eyes sparkled and she had a real buzz about her. Have
you ever felt this way about something? Passion! A constant,
unwavering, motivating, inspiring PASSION. Believe me, it is
something I love to find in people. People who feel this way
about their dream crackle with energy and are busy living
I couldn't wait to hear how her plans were progressing and
how her shows had gone. Yes, she is attractive, but what
attracted me the most was her passion for her dream. Passion
OK, get the tissues ready because here's the sad news:
We met and I knew instantly something had changed. She told
me about how hard her exams had been but she'd obtained her
degree. "Well done, now, what's happening with your dancing?
How did the shows go?"
She replied that the shows were fine and then knocked me for
6: "I've decided not to pursue dancing now. I've started a
graduate management training scheme and I'm going to have a
career in IT instead."
I tried and tried to talk her into pursuing her dream but
the buzz had gone. She'd always said the degree was just for
back up in case things didn't work out with her dancing. I
reminded her of this and she said, resignedly: "things have
changed. Dancing will just be for fun now."
At the root of her decision is fear. The usual fear excuses
were all trotted out:
"It's so difficult to break in to the top level."
"I'd have to move away from home and I'd miss my family too
much. Besides, I'd be on my own in a big city."
"There's much more money in IT."
I told her others had overcome the first two therefore, she
could. But the last one is the real key. I had a fantastic
career in IT - I still love working with computers, always
have. Conversely, Nikkie had worked for 6 weeks last summer
in an office and HATED EVERY SECOND of it. She was bored,
didn't like being indoors and it wasn't active enough for
her. And now, with a degree firmly in her hand, she's
willing to sell-out on her dream to do something she hates
purely for money and security. She isn't the first to kill
her dream for these reasons and she sure won't be the last.
I feel sorry for her. Because now she'll never know how far
she could've got as a dancer. Maybe one day she'll return to
it and teach and I really hope she does. But it won't be as
the wonderfully fulfilled person who gave everything for her
dream and experienced true fulfilment, tremendous
satisfaction and the greatest reward of all: the happiness
that comes from achieving success having overcome challenge
Yes, going for a dream is real tough. There will be endless
hours of work and effort. Years of dedication, tears of
frustration, setbacks, knocks, sticking points and failures.
That's the price demanded by success. But my lord is it
worth every single second of it when finally, the day dawns
when your efforts start to bear fruit. It's a very special
feeling, the biggest buzz you or I can ever have.
Your dream is special. You don't need anyone's approval for
it, you don't need to make excuses for it and you don't need
to be frightened of it. Embrace it. Commit to it. I promise
you, you will not regret it no matter what happens. But if
you give-up on it, if you kill it, well...
I'll leave you with the same words I said to Nikkie as we
said our goodbyes:
"As the years pass, age will bring you time to reflect on
your life. If you live a dream your memories will bring you
joy and comfort. If you betray it, the memory of your
betrayal will haunt you because you'll never know how high
you could've flown. Life is not a dress rehearsal. Please
don't give up on your dream."
Beautiful dreams die everyday. Nikkie killed hers. Please
don't kill yours too.
See you next time.
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book that will show you how to conquer fear and make your
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