An integral piece of charisma is establishing a presence, so let's examine 3 ways to establish your charisma presence, that will clearly tell all around you "I'm a player and a force to be reckoned with!".
Your Mother Was Right:
"Stand up Straight!"; "Head up!"; "Shoulders back!"; "Chest out!"; "Don't slouch!"; are some other things you heard as a child. Probably without knowing, she was enabling you to display confidence and establish a charisma presence. Your overall posture will make you feel and look confident, while keeping you at ease with your surroundings. As you encounter new situations, pay very particular attention to how you walk, sit, and stand. Even if you're not at ease, follow the rules of posture your mother told you as you were growing up. That posture that tells other people that you are at ease, and they naturally will assume you are!
A natural friendly smile is one of your most powerful "weapons" in your charisma arsenal and can work wonders if you use it at the right strategic intervals. A friendly smile can be an ice breaker, or it can easily remove resistance. And just generally, it surrounds you in an aura of high self-esteem and confidence.
You Are in the Drivers Seat!
In every situation where you deal with anothers, you need to stay focused on tact and diplomacy. Remember to keep your charisma qualities high so that others will be drawn to you. As analyze situations you'll also know exactly when to speak and what to say when you speak, and how to present yourself in the most appealing way throughout the interaction.
As you look at the world full of people, most lack a high level of charisma presence. It is very easy to stand out and be head-and-shoulders above the rest. When you have it, it shows. And even if you don't have it, as you develop your own high level of presence, you can fake it until you make it. But remember, the trick to faking it is to fake it with sincerity. As your charisma presence develops, you will find yourself no longer faking it, but truly exhibiting an aura of charisma to others around you, where they are drawn to your charismatic charm.
Charles H Smith
Having been a public speaker for more than a decade, Charles has learned the unwritten rules of what makes or breaks a good first and lasting impression. For more on enabling your charisma, see this new ebook, "The Power of Charisma" - http://www.the-power-of-charisma.com