Next to your internal mindset (which should be relaxed, confident, and sexual), body language is the most important aspect when it comes to dating women.
Why? Because an estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to
university researchers) is non-verbal, and your body language reveals your internal
emotional state. Whether someone's parents just died, or whether they just got
promoted to CEO... you can tell by observing their body language.
So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of
what you're communicating non-verbally.
Body language consists of the following:
- Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful
that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody. Move
through the world doing what you want and assuming that others will follow.
- The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Don't
be afraid to take up space.
- Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect. Don't speak
too fast or strain your voice.
- Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never tense your jaw, and only rarely
should you frown or wrinkle your brow.
- Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage. Don't
raise them up like a nervous person.
I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than
anything you say, because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then
you won't succeed with women.
You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same
time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake.
I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language. For
example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on
the couch, arms spread out, with my feet up on the table.
The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home
lounging on my own couch. It was as if I owned the coffee shop.
The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started
engaging me in random small talk.
(Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you,
you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you.)
The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a
few days later we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the
night. (We finally had sex in the morning.)
The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached
me because of my body language.
So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language. Be
in a woman's personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same
time don't be needy or desperate for her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy
And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and
enjoying yourself... with the woman.
John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male, a seduction success system for men that will have you
displaying body language that attracts women like a magnet.