You went out with the guy. You both had a great time (or at least you
thought he did!). You said goodnight, and he said he'd call you.
Why? What did you say to offend him? Was it your hair? Your clothes?
Your weight? What's wrong with you, anyway?
The answers to those questions are as follows: Who cares? Nothing, no,
no, no, and not a damn thing.
Every woman in the world--no matter how thin, beautiful, smart, kind or
talented--has been disappointed by a guy she really liked who said he'd
call but didn't.
Whatever you do, don't call him. Why? Because he said
he'd call you, and he didn't. Which means that either his word is no
good (better to know that early on!), or that he accidentally threw away
your phone number with the tin foil he wrapped his peanut butter
Yes, of course women have every right to phone a man (as long as
they're cool about it), but why put yourself at a disadvantage by calling
someone who pretty much lied to you? Who needs it?
Now, before you fall into the funk that says you're never going to get
married, all your dates end badly, you're getting older by the second,
you're going to die alone...
The truth is, the guy has done you a favor. He's not right for you, and
in a cowardly manner he's let you know that immediately, rather than
stringing you along for weeks. Rejection always hurts, sure, but it
happens to everybody. And you're a big girl; you'll definitely get over it.
Remind yourself of what you have to offer, of what
makes you special. Know that if somebody with your fine qualities exists,
surely a man with the good taste to love and appreciate you also exists.
Know this: The world is full of much better men than the toad who let you down. And every rejection you face is a step toward the right
man, the one who's truly worthy of you and will add to your happiness.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at firstname.lastname@example.org