The decision to place your loved one into a nursing home is an
extremely difficult decision, often causing much guilt for the
caregiver. It is a very emotional decision for most clients we see and
most are under a certain amount of stress, often great, when facing what
they consider to be a drastic course of action.
I counsel our
caregiver clients to get beyond the guilt as quickly as they can,
because the situation their loved one is in is not the caregiver's
fault. And besides, the longer you remain under this stress, the less
healthy you eat, or you eat way too much, the less you sleep, and some
start drinking (my own mother started this late at night after she got
my dad settled in bed for the evening ? not healthy to say the least).
The stress of caring for a loved one is constant and unrelenting. It
is a physical, mental and emotional grind. On numerous occasions, we
have actually had caregiver clients die before the spouse in the nursing
home. Sometimes, the caregivers die shortly after the nursing home
spouse dies. The stress of being a caregiver can be deadly serious,
especially for older clients who are caregivers for their spouse.
You have to recognize it and develop a plan to deal with it.
Get your children involved in developing a plan to deal with your
loved one's incapacity. And remember, plan for the absolute worst case
scenario. Get to an attorney who can help you develop a plan to help you
with your particular situation. And this is especially important as soon
as you detect any signs of dementia in your parent or spouse, or as soon
as you begin to detect physical problems with your loved one. The sooner
you begin the plan, the better off the family will be.
NOW, HOW DO WE PAY FOR MAMA'S NURSING HOME CARE? There are
really only three ways to pay for a stay in a nursing home.
LONG TERM CARE INSURANCE (LTCI). If Mama was far-sighted enough, she
may have purchased LTCI in the past before she needed it. This would be
an excellent source of funds to help defray some or all of Mama's long
term care costs. Unfortunately, very few seniors, those over age 60,
have LTCI coverage.
SELF PAY. This essentially means that Mama has enough income or
financial assets to pay her own way in the nursing home. However, many
families don't have the income or the financial asset base to be able to
pay $4,000 to $7,500 or more a month for a bed for very long in a
MEDICAID. This is a state-administered medical benefit program which
will pay for the cost of a nursing home stay if three tests are met,
i.e., medical need, asset, and income. Medicaid is obviously a
needs-based program, funded partially by state funds, but mostly by
federal funds. Many people are under the mistaken impression that
MEDICARE, which most seniors in this country over age sixty-five
participate in to one degree or another, will cover the cost of their
stay in a nursing home.
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