To some people it means driving a flash car and flashing wads
of cash around to show they are doing well.
To others it is spending time with their family, having
achieved happiness in their life.
Your personal idea of success, and being successful will
differ from someone else's, but is very important to you.
Without spending some time thinking about your success, how
will you know if you are achieving it?
Take some time now and think about it.
Now start working towards it, and set goals to make you
Goal setting is important to your success, so you better
do it right too. Here are some important things to remember
about goal setting
1. break your main goal (success) into smaller ones
These small steps towards an ultimate goal are in some
circles known as "eating the elephant" because you
couldn't eat the whole elephant in one go, but cutting it
into bite sized chunks makes it possible to achieve
a seemingly impossible task.
2. Don't set unachievable goals- when you don't hit them
they will be a major setback.
You wouldn't decide to climb mount Everest on your first
hill walk or expect to build your own house because you
have a new toolkit, so be realistic about your goals here too.
3. Write them down, and make them real, also imagine life
as it will be when you have achieved each goal.
The human mind works on visualization, athletes across the world
use this technique, seeing themselves in their own minds eye
crossing the finish line first. They imagine how it feels, the
sound of the crowds cheering etc. Then the mind can focus on making
4. If you miss a goal, or deadline, take it as a minor
setback not total failure, and try again.
The best analogy I've heard for this is of an ocean liner
crossing thousands of miles of sea. On its way it may drift off
course many times, but the captain will make a slight adjustment
to get it on track each time. He knows its not a total failure
to be slightly amiss along the way as long as you correct it and
end up where you are going.
These steps will take you towards your individual success ideal,
whatever it may be. You will meet adversity, and failure along
the way, but take it in your stride.
Always keep just your next small goal in mind and eventually you
will find you have reached and even surpassed the main goal you
had set, without even noticing it.
Douglas Titchmarsh runs several websites, and blogs including