In Key Reason #1 we looked at how you are working with
outdated beliefs. Reason # 2 gives a clue as to why that
might be so.
Your Capability has outstripped your Cope-ability
Have you ever been in a situation where you think to
yourself " I just can't cope any more"? Psychologists'
and psychiatrists' waiting rooms are full of such people
for whom life has become too much.
That is because we choose to live at a level of awareness
below that of which we are capable. The reason why people
choose that lower level of awareness stems from the belief
that they will not be able to cope with the responsibility
that would be theirs at the higher levels. And so, a
little like the crocodile which raises its eyes just above
the water line only to sink below the surface again, they
sink down into what they perceive as a safer environment.
But as a human being your inclination is towards
wholeness. Your system is geared towards making you whole,
or at least as near to whole as possible. Take the example
of cutting yourself. Immediately the injury occurs your
body swings into action to repair the damage. Eventually
your body would heal itself. The extent to which that
healing was achieved would depend on the extent of the
injury and the treatment you received. But all the stitches
and bandages only assist the healing process, they do not
A similar situation occurs in the brain. There are a
number of recorded instances where a particular area of a
person's brain has been damaged and new connections
between other parts of the brain have developed naturally,
even taking over some, perhaps all of the functions
previously exercised by the damaged part.
Or when you make a decision. Faced with a number of
options, you will invariably choose the best option
available. No one in their right mind looks at the list of
achievable possibilities and selects the second best or
third best option. Of course, there may well be times when
the option chosen turns out not to be the best after all.
That does not mean you did not consider it to be the best
available option at the time you chose it.
These are just three brief examples to show how your
system is geared towards wholeness. However, when you
choose to live below the awareness level you are capable
of, you actively go against your own inclination towards
As a consequence you do not develop the coping skills that
only come as you face and work through the issues you are
attempting to avoid. Add in the inner conflict that results
from you struggling against your natural inclination and
you come face to face with the stark reality you are your
own worst enemy.
And that is one massive reality to try to cope with!
Graham Hunt is the founder of Prentis Carpenter Center, an organisation established to resource an environment where those people who chose to do so could discover and work towards their potential. One way in which Graham is doing that is through his website http://www.higher-self-esteem-site.com/ Drop by anytime.