"Who rules or guides or inspires others"
Having excellent guide skills is one of the most important
abilities to possess in today's fast-paced world. We need the
support and cooperation of other people to help us in reaching
our goals. The saying "No man is an island" is an undeniable
Here are some guidelines to effectively influence anyone you desire.
A) Enter their world.
You must understand the situation according to their point of
view. Set aside your personal interests and concentrate on
Just pretend that if you are them, what would you do? What
would be your opinion? Then take the appropriate action that
would be beneficial to them.
Copy them. Observe how they act, how they speak, and how
they think. If they rub their forehead while they think,
act like them. If they speak at a clear and slow pace, try
to do the same thing. This is called mirroring.
In due time, the people you're mirroring will subconsciously
feel more comfortable with you. It's as if they see
themselves in you.
However, you must proceed with caution. Do not let them be
aware that you are copying them. They might interpret it as
mockery and you'll just get into trouble.
B) Be Friendly and Nice.
Smile to brighten up the day. Make a sincere compliment to
raise their spirits. Little things like these count a lot.
Make them feel that whenever they need help or just someone
to look up to, you'll always be there to lend a hand. They
would tend to be more receptive to people that they trust.
If you want to ask your boss a favor, do everything you can
to please him. Over deliver and exceed his expectations.
Soon, he will notice your efforts and will be more than
glad to grant your request.
C) Provide them with compelling evidence.
Explain to them how your ideas or suggestions could be the
most effective techniques to implement. Show them undeniable
proof that you have the best product by way of testimonials,
before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against
your competitors. Just make sure that all your claims are
true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation.
D) Meet their existing needs and desires.
People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with
their own well-being before others. If you can prove that
your proposal will provide more advantageous benefits to them
than to your own, then they will probably accept it.
If you could focus more on their interests, desires, needs,
and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings for
attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care
about them. Mutual trust and respect would be established.
This is the most important thing to remember when persuading
anyone. No matter how close you are to becoming like them or
how overwhelming your evidence is, if it does not satisfy the
"What's In It For Me?" test, your persuasion efforts will not
produce satisfactory results. Always bear in mind how they
will benefit from your actions.
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