Breaking into conversational groups is one of the things people ask me about when I'm conducting networking sessions. There's a buzz that hovers over a crowded room that comes from all those people conversing. You need to break into that buzz to be a great networker.
Let's face it, looking at a room full of people you don't know can be intimidating. At
first glance, it appears everyone knows everyone else - except you! The first thing
you need to remember is that this is not true. The only difference between you and
all those others is that they have been in the room five minutes longer than you
have. They have had an opportunity to begin a conversation with at least one
person, so they appear at ease. All you have to do is find one person to speak with,
and you will be just as at home.
Ah, but that's the problem. How do you break into the buzz? Here are a couple of
First, find the refreshment table or the bar, depending on the time of day the event
is being held. Now you are going to make your way over there, but don't make a
mad dash with your eye firmly locked on the coffee pot. Instead, walk over in a
leisurely way, looking over the people as you go. You may notice someone you
know, or someone you have been wanting to meet. If you note where they are
standing, you can move in that direction once you have your coffee.
A common mistake of neophyte networkers is to concentrate on picking up food
and drink, ignoring the other networkers in the line. Don't do that, as they
represent your first opportunity to make a connection. You can make casual
conversation about the food, or even just introduce yourself. In either case, by the
time you both reach the end of the line you will have someone to converse with as
you move off into the room.
When you find yourself alone in a crowded room, practise the art of "hovering".
Move towards a small group of people who are having a conversation, but rather
than push right into the group, "hover" a yard or so outside the circle. Someone will
invariably notice you and invite you in. If someone happens to be speaking at the
time, say something like, "Don't let me interrupt your story - it's interesting."
When they finish, that's the time to introduce yourself to the rest of the group.
If you use these ideas, you'll find it's not so hard to become part of that happy,
Helen Wilkie is a professional keynote speaker, workshop leader and author
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