If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get
what you've always got.
It's critical that we realize our lives can change at any
moment. Realistically, there will come a time when our
everyday life will suddenly be altered; the only question is
when. It could happen when you least expect it. You might
get a dreaded phone call, come up with a brilliant idea,
loose your job, meet a new friend, discover a new career
direction, or fall in love. You just never know, and this is one
of the reasons why life is so exciting and mysterious.
I know it's not easy to shift out of what we do and how we do
it, nor is it easy to shift our views in order to see new things
in place of the old. It is often frightening and confusing to
make a shift away from the familiar in order to embrace the
unknown. Yet it is necessary energy we must apply in order
to grow. No matter how challenging, difficult, or hard it may
seem, shifts are necessary to free ourselves from the
confinement of our unnecessary self-made mental,
emotional, or physical limitations. All shifts create a
vibration which in turn affects everything around it. If you
shift a piece of chalk in a box, all the other pieces of chalks
will move. Sometimes moving a single piece of chalk will
cause a slight shift. Under other circumstances, moving a
single piece may mean the others fall, crack, and crumble.
This is why sometimes in fear of the effects our changes
will create, we delay making a much-needed shift in our
minds and behaviors. As a result, our lives and everything
around us remain stuck. Being stuck can lead our spirits to
develop negative emotions -- such as frustration,
depression, confusion, doubt or even anger -- that we don't
truly understand.
Nevertheless when the time comes to move (and you'll
know when that time is, just as long as you choose to
acknowledge it), all I can say is, you must move! However,
there are important factors that you must also take into
account when making changes in your life -- that is, to
consider all the different kinds of income you need to
produce. Aside from monetary income there are also
psychological, spiritual, and physical income. You have to
consider the balance in all your accounts because a high
figure in one and nothing in the others adds up to a very low
average. Realize when you choose a certain kind of
behavior, you also choose the consequences of the balance
in each account. So let's say you choose to invest 90
percent of your energy in your job and 10 percent in your
personal relationship -- it doesn't matter whether you can
justify the demands at work -- essentially what matters is
that you've chosen to allow your personal relationship to
loose a vital connection.
Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Honestly
assess where you stand with your beliefs in
self-management -- mentally, emotionally, physically, and
spiritually. You cannot afford to be fearful, defensive or to be
in denial; this can truly harm you. It diminishes what might
have been a real chance to overcome a problem had the
solution just been pursued in time. So you have to have the
strength and courage to ask yourself the hard questions,
and give yourself realistic answers. Remember -- you can't
change what you don't acknowledge. If you refuse to
acknowledge the changes that occur or need to occur in
your life, your own self-destructive behaviors will not only
continue, they will actually gain momentum, become more
deeply entrenched in the habitual patterns of your life, and
grow more and more resistance to change. And let me
remind you, nothing glorious can come out of this!
Copyright ? 2005 Penny Phang Enterprises, Inc. All rights
reserved.
Penny Phang is one of Canada's nominated Top 40 Under
40 business leaders, recognized for her commitment to
provide strategic business communication and marketing
services with inspiring enthusiasm, creativity, and elegance.
She is also well known as the Producer for Playboy Special
Editions for Western Canada. In addition, she remains
involved in full-service business communications with her
founded Simplex Communications Group, and continues to
write for her monthly inspirational lifestyle column, Moments
of Inspiration with Penny on
http://www.pennyphang.com/
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