The Law of Attraction says that 'like attracts like'. It means that whatever your predominate thoughts are will show up as people and experiences in your life. I used to get really angry with this idea. The people in my life were not the kind of people I wanted. The experiences in my life were not the experiences I wanted! Why couldn't I seem to get this attraction thing to work for me? Why couldn't I make things come out differently? What was wrong with me?

I hear the same thing from many of my clients. "What is wrong with me?" they ask, when the woman they are interested in does not show the same interest in them. Another client asked "Am I just stupid?" when she failed to see that the man she was dating was a closet alcoholic. "I feel like a failure." Another client confided after another relationship that didn't turn out the way he had planned. But the Law of Attraction works perfectly every time. It can work for or against you. Just like gravity. It can work for you to keep you from spinning off the planet, or against you if you lean too far over the edge of a cliff! But the Law of Attraction works through your thoughts and most importantly through the predominate thought you think most of the time. So if your predominate thought is that relationships are a lot of work, then you will attract partners and situations that are a lot of work. If your predominate thought is that all the good ones are taken, then you will tend to meet people you like and could be interested in, who are already in a relationship with someone else. If your predominate thought is that women are only after your money and you worry about having enough, then you will meet women who worry about money too. So begin to direct your thoughts toward what you want. How do you do this? First realize at your core you are a creative being. You have the power to expand the knowledge and experiences on this planet simply because of your unique perspective. So why not direct that creative power that is yours toward what you want? Start by noticing what makes you feel GREAT! Notice when you feel energized! Notice what settings or circumstances you are in. Notice what kinds of people make you feel joyful and loved. Make of list of all of these. And begin to look for ways that you can be that kind of person yourself.

For example if you are energized by hiking in the mountains or spending time at the seashore and you feel a sense of awe and excitement when you are in nature, make note of that. Then declare, "I am a magnet for a partner who loves nature as much as I do and is looking for a woman like me to enjoy it with." As you declare this, out loud with enthusiasm, you are setting powerful creative energies in motion. You are igniting the Law of Attraction! That is the first step.

The second step is to know and accept that the Law will work and produce what you give your attention to. So if within your wanting to find that perfect partner you are more focused on the "wanting" and therefore on the fact that you do not have, then that is exactly what will continue to show up for you, more wanting and pinning over the fact that you are once again alone. To change this, begin to experience and visualize what it is like to have the person of your dreams at you side. That's right, daydream! Vividly pretend! Get the feeling you will have when that person is right there. And accept that just as it takes three hours to drive from Denver to Glenwood Springs, it will take some time for your lover to get to you. So don't get discouraged. Don't give up.

Do let go of any sense of "wanting" and instead be joyous and energized by all that you do.

Finally, allow the Law to work for you. Trust that it is working for you. And go out and do things that allow you to feel at your best. Then just keep your eyes open and notice what shows up. Like Tom Hanks in the movie "Castaway". You never know what the tide will bring.

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Deb Melton, Singles Coach and Certified Fearless Living Coach lives in Denver and coaches singles all over the country to help them find their soulmate. Deb's philosophy is, "It's never too late to find the love of your life and live the life you love! Deb also offers teleclasses and seminars on a variety of subjects for singles of all ages. Whether you have never been married or you are recently divorced, Deb's coaching and classes are interactive, fun and full of helpful information. Go to her website to learn more http://www.denversinglescoach.com