Ladies

Yes, we all have a friend who is or has been involved with a married man. Perhaps we have been guilty ourselves. Even the words of our mother's "Don't get involved with a married man or you'll get hurt" rings loud but seems to fade into oblivion when "Mr. Smooth" enters our space.

So now that you are involved (I mean your friend is involved) with "Mr. I wanna have my cake and eat it to", what are the tell tale signs that he is never going to leave his wife.

1. It's been a year (or more!)

If you've been involved in this affair (sorry honey there's no kind way to put it) for a year or more waiting for him to get his business in order, then darling it's likely never to happen.

2. It's not the money

Aren't you worth more to him than his losing half his net worth? "As soon as I can move some of my assets out of her name, I'll leave". Sure! Remember you also have some assets to bring to the relationship besides enhancing his wellbeing.

3. I'll wait 'til the kids are older

How old do the kids need to be? All kids grieve when parents split no matter what age.

4. He spends more nights away from you.

I know he doesn't want to create suspicion at home. Soon he'll leave her and you'll be together?.forever! Hmmmmmmmm read point 1 again.

5. The flowers, dinners out or weekends away slow or fade away.

Ah you're now apart of the furniture. The romance is dwindling. Perhaps it's just as well you didn't take the big step.

And finally remember if you are going through this now could it happen to you later. Does a leopard really change his spots?

Simone Reed is the editor of Love Letters a FREE newsletter offering up todate dating tips and advice. Check it out at http://www.online-dating-4all.com