Why is it when it comes to dating that we go from one relationship right into another, searching for something from someone that only God is capable of giving us? Why do we think that leaping into another courtship will change our thinking and current situation in our lives?

We seem to have this delusion that we will live a happily ever after if we just find someone that will tell us what we want to hear and treat us the way we want to be treated. Then when God does bring us someone that tells the truth we find ourselves uncomfortable and go to someone who makes us feel better even though their not being honest with us.

While we should be with someone that treats us nice and with respect, we should not compromise our spiritual values with them. If we do, we will continue to go down a very lonely road filled with disappointments and frustrations, time and time again only to point our finger at others, ourselves and God.

The truth of the matter is until we acknowledge that it's our own relationship with Christ or lack of and not others that is contributing to these dead end relationships we will never experience the true love that only Jesus Christ wants us to have and can provide for us. However, this is the road most choose not to travel. Why? Because it's got to many hills in it. We hit big pot holes and it may take a few unexpected curves along the way.

It's easier to blame others and to have the attitude that the world owes us someone. But in the long run if we take God's road it will get us where we need to go, in much faster time and a more forfilling journey. First, Gods road leads us to having a loving relationship with Jesus Christ, and second we experience a cup filled relationship with the love of our life. The bible says, "Seek ye first the kingdom and all other things will be added unto you" When Jesus says that, he means all things. We just may have to travel down a road less traveled in order to get them.

It sounds simple enough, doesn't it? Though this road is challenging to say the least. Why? because we struggle with our fleshly desires to fill our internal needs instead of our spiritual needs filled by God. And our flesh will always be a thorne to us. So going from one relationship right into another won't solve the difficulties we seem to have in every relationship we experience. If we really want a true test about our lives look at the majority of our friends we hang with. How are their relationships with others? If they are having the same difficulties we are experiencing, maybe that should tell you something about your own life and where you are getting your validations from. If we want to make a true change in ourselves the majority of our friends and resources must be those that are living Godly lives, having relationships with others like we desire to have, and telling us the truth in love, when maybe we don't want to hear it. Looking in the mirror at ourselves is not easy, but it's necessary.

It really boils down to our mindset toward life and having a lot of faith in Jesus Christ. Yes, we may temporarily feel better about ourselves when someone new in our life satisfies our egos, and pride, but the emptiness will still be there. God and life has a funny, yet sometimes painful way of making us look in a mirror at our patterns of relationships. If your tired, frustrated and even lonely about going from one dead end relationship to look at our own relationship with Jesus Christ. Because, if you really think about, he's our best bet anyway. And he'll be the one at the end of the road less traveled filling our cups, not another person.

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