When a child wets the bed they worry. Children tend to become dry
during the day more easily than at night. During the day they are
awake and aware of their feelings and can go to the toilet normally.
However, at night, when they are asleep, the usual feelings of a full
bladder aren't sufficiently strong to wake them. The result is a wet
bed. Or, young children have to continue wearing diapers at night.
Fairly soon they realise this is not normal. They wonder why they
don't need a diaper during the day, but do need one at night. They
might also talk to siblings or friends and discover that they don't
need a night-time diaper. This will only compound their worries.
Throughout childhood, your son or daughter is trying to establish
their identity; they are trying to find out who they are. They also
want to make sure they 'fit in', that they are just like everyone else
and that they are not abnormal. As soon as they discover that
wetting the bed is not usual, they worry.
Your child might not say they are worried, but they will be. What
this means is that you need to do everything you can to reduce the
potential for concern. That means treating the bed wetting
occasions as normal, no trouble. Don't make a big thing out of
them. The more you make a fuss, the more the child thinks they
are unusual, out of the ordinary. And when that happens, they are
more likely to continue wetting the bed.
Also, it's important not to punish the child. One survey found that
21% of all children who wet the bed are punished for doing so. But
the child has no idea why the punishment is taking place. They are
doing something natural - urinating - and they can't connect the
punishment to any crime. This can lead to all sorts of difficulties for
the child, including social ones. Punishment is also
counterproductive, lengthening the time it takes to achieve night
time dryness.
Instead of punishment, children who wet the bed need support,
guidance and encouragement. Positive reinforcement of the good
times - when they have a dry night - is much more likely to
succeed in the long term.
The problem for most parents is that the best methods of dealing
with bed wetting also take a long time. The child also gets
frustrated at the delay in achieving a dry night. That's whey
encouragement and a positive home and attitude are essential in
helping children come to terms with the difficulties they face.
The more you talk about bed wetting and make them feel abnormal,
the worse the situation will become. The more you treat each bed
wetting incident as a normal everyday occurrence, the quicker the
dry nights will arrive.
For more information on how to deal with bed wetting and end the misery for your child visit Bed Wetting Info.