Consider a person very important to you. He or she keeps on talking to the extent of boring you and make you feel like escaping from that place. To prevent the annoyance or boredom showing in your face, you may use gestures, smiles and gazes to pretend that you are listening to that person! It may even be an important business deal. We call it a non-verbal way of communication or the "body-language"!

There are gestures, smiles and gazes that communicate to the other person how far we are interested in the conversation.

Gestures may be of different types. Notice a person playing a dice game. When there is a positive sign of victory on his side, he gets more excited and rubs his palms fast. Then he throws the dices. Similarly a sales person knows when his customer is responsive. Hand-to-cheek gesture or hand-to-chin gesture from the person shows his disinterest and the salesman realizes that the customer is not interested in his presentation. A speaker can feel the pulse of his audience when speaking by observing their gestures. Slapping one's own forehead indicates the person's forgetfulness.

Gazes go a long way in communicating with each other. Gestures form the eyes help to communicate between lovers! When a person's gaze meets yours for more than two thirds of the time, it can mean one of two things; first, he or she finds you very interesting or appealing, in which case the gaze will be associated with dilated pupils; secondly, he or she is hostile towards you and may be issuing a non-verbal challenge, in which case the pupils will become constricted

Smile your way into someone' heart ? they say! There are 50 or so different types of human smiles. By analyzing the movements of facial muscles involved in smiling, researchers can tell when a smile is true. Look for the crinkle in the skin at the middle, outside corner of the eyes and if it is not there, the smile is probably fake. Authentic smiles are smiles that change rapidly from a small facial movement to a broad open expression.

Bodily cues and vocal cues sometimes show signs of deceptions.

In our day-to-day encounters with others, foot, pointing, body pointing and positive gesture clusters such as open arms, visible palms, leaning forward, head tilting and smiling can make it easy for others not only to enjoy your company, but to be influenced by your point of view

Learn the body language and succeed in winning over others!

Hpriya Sivan