A lot of people have the wrong kind of love and don't even know it. If you are experiencing any of the following issues I have listed in this article, then you definitely have that wrong kind of love. You can try to fix it, if you have the time and patience, and if you think that there is something special about your guy. But if all you are getting from him is lots of heartache, then it is time to dump the load that is weighing you down and move on. Now let's get to it. If you have any of the following in your current relationship, you have a serious decision to make:
Your man verbally abuses you on a daily basis ? Does your man get his high from berating you every chance he gets? He tells you how you just don't know anything ? you are dumb, fat, and stupid. He has no regard for your opinion or feelings about any subject. Even when you go out of your way to prepare his favorite dish for him, he never has anything positive to say. If this is the kind of man you have in your life, you need to think seriously about finding a healthy relationship ? one that builds your self-esteem and values what you bring to the table. As a result of the verbal abuse, you may have developed anxiety attacks that make your life a living hell. According to the creator of the Linden Method that guarantees to cure anxiety attacks, Charles Linden, "You aren't going mad, you are one of 20 million people in the USA alone who suffer with ANXIETY DISORDER and/or PANIC DISORDER and if that is the case, I promise you that this is the most important website you will ever find."
From time to time, he physically abuses you ? If he gets angry and pushes or slaps you around to let you know he is the boss, you absolutely do not have the right kind of guy. Now bear in mind that some guys are able to change this behavior, but you must give your particular situation some serious thought. Start by getting professional help.
Just because he apologizes and tells you he loves you with all his heart, after beating you into a pulp, does not mean he loves you. If this is his way of expressing his love for you, then you don't want this kind of love. You could wind up in a ditch somewhere, if you are not proactive about changing your situation. Access the link above now, do not waste one more minute.
He feels he is doing you a favor by staying with you ? Does he make you feel that he is doing you a favor by being with you? Is your love life starting to feel like "Sympathy Love?" When you cry about how he is treating you, he feels bad and hangs around. Stop it. If your guy cannot love you for who you are, then there is absolutely no reason why you should continue that kind of relationship. Your guy ought to be happy to be with you. If he is not, then you ought to let him go. You will be better off when you finally find a man that derives joy from fulfilling your heart's romantic desires.
He never makes any effort to spend quality time with you ? It is common sense that people want to spend time with those they love and care, while staying far away from those they despise or barely tolerate. What it boils down to is this; if you have to force him to make time for you, especially when he is not too busy with work, then that is a big hint that he does not want to be around you. Don't wait around to be hit with a big stick for you to get it through your head.
He flirts with other women in your presence ? This is one of the worst forms of disrespect. Flirting with another woman in your presence is a rude and crude way of letting you know that what you feel or think is immaterial. It is a way of telling you, "If you like, you can leave me or you can stay, but I will do what I want with whoever I want." There is no way you can have a happy relationship without respect.
He goes out on the weekends and comes home the next day ? This is worse than flirting with another woman in your presence. If this happens often then that is a strong clue that he is having an affair and really wants to move on with his life, but doesn't quite know how to verbalize it.
He is constantly trying to lie his way out of a lie ? This one ties right into the last point ? coming home the next day when he goes out on weekends. If he is telling a lie to get himself out of the last one he told, then it is time for you to move on, unless of course you want to drain your energy and enthusiasm for life with a loser. Before you go, you can do some detective work yourself to get the hard evidence you need to bust him and his lies.
He is not supportive of your goals and aspirations ? If he is not supportive of your goals and aspirations, it means that he does not value you or what you want to do with your life. Love cannot last when one party's dreams and goals are the only ones being pursued, discussed or nurtured.
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If you are unsure if your current relationship can be salvaged, try to get the objective opinions of trusted family members. Often times they are able to help you decide whether to stay in your relationship and work things out or simply grab your bag and turn a new leaf. If you do make the decision to move on, you want to make sure you do not jump into the arms of the next sweet-looking devil you run into. You can't afford to make the mistake of having lightening strike you twice. Looks can be deceiving. Just because a man looks gentle and acts like he has princely manners, does not mean he is a nice guy. Bad guys know how to act nice, until they know you have fallen in love with them.
Take your time to get to know the next guy you want to be romantically involved with. Find out who he really is, and not who he appears to be.
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Steve Ubah is the author of Passion Keys ? A Woman's Ultimate Guide To Unlocking The Love In A Man's Heart. To find out how you can make your man fall madly in love with you, please visit http://www.smartwomansguide.com
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