"The truth that makes men free is for the most part the truth which men prefer not to hear." Herbert Agar

It may not be exactly what you want to hear, but I think this is especially true when it comes to relationships. The more emotional the situation the more truth there seems to be in that quote.

Are you wondering just what this has to do with small business resources or more importantly you?

I am a small business advocate that encourages its use as a platform for learning the lessons of responsibility, the best part of ambition...I want everyone to know what it feels like to dedicate each day to giving expression and focus to your passion!

I encourage those of you crying because some person didn't love you as much as you wanted to pay special attention. If you know someone in that boat, send them a link to this article.

There is an element of "you are alone" that we must all confront and accept as a part of life, instead of constantly seeking validation of that reality's denial. I'll share with you what my mother told me, "People are the hands and feet of God. We are here to do God's work here on Earth."

My mother's words helped me to find meaning and value in my life at an early age. It put to rest any fears I had of loneliness. It gave me a foundation of self respect on which to build my adulthood.

No one else can enter your pain with you, nor can they fully enter your joy. Those are internal experiences. Not even the most ideal partnership can spare you from that reality.

Discovering the person you love is not who you thought can feel like a kick has landed in your chest. Among the unfortuate side effects are loss of appetite, insomnia, constant weeping, etc.

But what do you do when you're tired of crying because it feels like your eyes will pop out? Or when you're just sick of feeling sorry for yourself. No amount of crying will change what has happened.

How long it takes for you to feel better depends totally on you. When will you make up your mind to get on with living successfully?

Hopefully you'll know where to turn when you've had enough of thinking in circles and getting nowhere. Start by reading product reviews, strategic development materials, and mapping out the plan for your success based on relationship valuation.

What do you do next? You build your business. Those restless moments when you want desperately to call and beg him to come back are better used if applied to a productive aspect of building your enterprise.

Can't sleep? Then get to work on your business or marketing strategic plan.

Why? Because you have to begin taking actions that empower and validate you ...the life you create for yourself. Focusing on your business (entrepreneurship) is a way to begin working and focusing on your future, independent of self defeating relationships. You can begin to cultivate and integrate the skills associated with relationship valuation and effective management easily and naturally. Just have the courage to take the first step.

This approach to your recovery has many long term benefits. Chief among them, it helps you become oriented with the concepts of relationship valuation that will enhance all of your future relationships, professional and personal. You only have to commit to one step at a time.

With diligent conscious guidance and attention this can be an exercise in breaking old relationship patterns by creating a better relationship with yourself. Building your business is an investment in your future at the most fundamental level. Attention to your material well being is a basic expression of self love when you intend it to be so.

This is why entrepreneurship works as an effective intervention. The pay off is obvious. Your business success is the key to affording the financial freedom and lifestyle you envision. Stop postponing your good until someone else shows up. You're already here and I know just where you can get started.

Yvette Dubel is the founder of http://www.enhancementconsulting.net/simpleplan.html and creator of Simple Plan System? featuring Clarity Relationship Valuation software. Dubel also has over ten years experience as a consultant and personal coach. Request information about online events by email (events-survey@freeautobot.com)and introduce yourself at http://www.getphpbb.com/phpbb/viewforum.php?f=2&mforum=enhancementcons